I think that the most painful breakup is one with someone that you never even dated. I know this seems like it wouldn’t hurt, but for some reason, it does. A lot. So how do you even begin to get over it?
To be honest with you, I’m still trying to figure it out myself. I mean, they were never even yours to begin with, so how are you supposed to feel when they leave? Are you supposed to feel sad? Angry? Hurt? Confused? There isn’t a correct answer. You’re allowed to feel all of these things. What I’ve found to help the most in these situations is a simple list.
- Cry on your best friend’s shoulder. I promise it will help. Let them rub your back and kiss your shoulder.
- Listen to sad music those first few days. But after that, stay away from those sad playlists.
- Eat your feelings. Eat as much as you want.
- Write about it. I don’t care if you don’t think you’re a writer. Write it out. It’ll help you vent without a filter. Nobody ever has to read it.
- Breathe. Everyone always says this, but it helps.
- Don’t let yourself become numb. Allow yourself to feel. It’s okay if it’s anger or if it’s sadness. Anything is better than nothing, I promise.
- Talk to someone you trust about it. Don’t hold back either. Tell them everything.
- Find an abandoned or empty area and scream as loud and for as long as you can. I do it in my car when I’m on an empty road.
- Ride with the windows down. Stick your hand out of the window.
It’s going to suck for a while. Some days are better than others. You’re going to have awful days, but you’re also going to have exhilarating days. Remember the good moments when you’re having a bad moment.
This day shall pass. The sun will rise, and we will try again.